On the Hunt

"Career opportunities could very well be exploding at the moment as a ripe gift from today's Full Moon in Virgo at the zenith of your horoscope. Professionally this is a time of great blossoming. The way you handle this auspicious time has more impact than what it is you’re actually handling."

So that's my horoscope for today from the Saturn Sisters (and compliments of elleuk.com). I certainly feel an affinity with this message. Not only do I want to find a job - but I want to put me onto the right career track. So far it has been far short of being stellar, and I do want a stellar career.

So its a new week and hopefully the job search will prove fruitful soon. Although I must admit I haven't exactly put a lot of effort into it thus far. It's about time I got back to work. So new week, renewed energy and focus on the job hunt. Fingers crossed and hopeful.

Things of Beauty

As much as I loved Sex and the City and all the talk about Manolo Blahniks and Louboutins, I have never been inclined to pay big money for the designer shoes. Bags, yes. Clothes, yes. There's just something about the thought of trudging through town in footwear costing hundreds, if not thousands of dollars. With limited resources I'd always prefer to spend my money on other things.

But now these Bally shoes - ooooh devine. They are just so beautiful! Both pairs. (And check out those legs too - if only!)

Truly beautiful aren't they?

Questions of Love

Today a good friend of mine told me his relationship with his girl had ended. No discussion and no fights. She'd already made up her mind. One month ago she'd suddenly decided to move out of the home they shared, and today she told him she wanted to part ways.

He is devastated and feels his world has been torn asunder. What he'd known for 3 years, and what he thought he'd continue to know for a lifetime was suddenly and abruptly ripped out from right underneath him.

I understand how he feels. My own relationship of nearly 7 years ended in not too different a manner. Abrupt and without explanation. To this day I still don't know why exactly. It took everyone by storm. But that is a story for another time.

What is it about people and their treatment of love today? Have we been desensitised by our throwaway society? By our fast-paced culture of instant satisfaction? Do we really think we can throw away love so rashly and that it will just come again? When we're single we search endlessly for love, but carelessly toss it aside when a speedbump jolts us a little.

I'd like to believe in the eternity of love but I'm increasingly coming to doubt it. Don't get me wrong - I'm not damaged and bitter. I'm a strong believer in the dynamism of relationships (of all sorts) and that people come into our lives at different times for different reasons - to touch us and teach us different lessons. Could relationships of the intimate and romantic nature be intended to work in the same way? Is it indeed too much to expect that one person could be the one for all our life, at all its many stages? The one that inspires us, the one that gives us strength, the one that sits by our side through the dark times, the one that understands us, the one that laughs at our lame jokes, the one that shares our values, dreams and interests. We are all individuals - is it too much to ask of love to provide us with one person to be all that forever? Or is the idea for us to have different loves in our lifetimes - and for each love to teach us and touch us in its own special way...

Too many questions and perhaps there's no answer. All I can say is it damn well hurts when it ends. I feel your pain my dear friend but I know you'll come out stronger from this. Hugz and love to you from across the oceans.